Integrating into Thai Society

Paul’s been here a long time but still lives the way he did in America. Sometimes it’s good to keep to western standards but often entrenched habits and customs get in the way of integrating with the locals and your neighbours.

When you enter a Thai home, it is customary to offer a glass of water as a refreshment. Paul never does and it does make one feel uncomfortable.

Thais notice it but don’t comment. He is a very generous guy and would help anyone out I am sure. He does not think of how his failure to follow social niceties and customs gives an impression of not being polite. Some may see it as rudeness. It’s a bit like not shaking hands in the West. Thais have a strong sense of what is polite and what is not.

Of course, these are the people one notices. Most expats blend in well in their communities. They are usually those who have more Thai than foreign friends and join in with local events rather than congregate with other farangs (foreigners) at expat clubs or on social media.

Seeing the real Thailand and how Thais live, particularly if here short-time as a tourist, is not easy. My advice is to observe for yourself, talk to a broad mix of Thais, and challenge the preconceptions and myths you may have heard about the country before your arrival.

If you stay or circulate only with those of your own or another western nationality, I think you’ll drop out on a valuable cultural experience and understanding of the people and the country.